How Not to Say the Wrong Thing

Maybe you saw this fabulous article making the rounds on Facebook. OR maybe someone sent you the link or handed you the clipping. (In that later case read it twice because maybe there is a hidden message there for you.)

But I'm posting it here because it is simply smart and funny and true.

In CancerLand we know how it is to be on the receiving end of, "Dear God, did she really just say that?" kind of comments. But we also want to be careful that we are not the deliverer of such things either. And, given the stress and distortion of cancer, it's possible that out of love or pain or fear, we might say the screwiest things.

This fabulous article by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman  reminds friends and loved ones how to, as the title says, not say the wrong thing. But it goes to a place none have gone before--it adds this diagram to help you

determine whether you should say that thing you want to say to this person. Or maybe you can say it to some other person instead, or maybe just shut up and write in your journal or have a good cry.

The bottom line is: "Comfort IN. Dump OUT."

Here's the link to the article:
http://articles.latimes.com/2013/apr/07/opinion/la-oe-0407-silk-ring-theory-20130407

Take the time to click and read,  and do share this one like crazy.