Loving the Wrong Person--Andrew Boyd

Getting ready to officiate at a friend's wedding a few weeks ago I was reading a lot of love and relationship poetry. As you'd expect there was a lot of blue birds and idealism and perfection and

forever in those volumes.

But then I came across Andrew Boyd, and his poem, "Loving the Wrong Person" and I thought...how can that be a wedding poem? And then I read it and I thought, "this is the perfect poem for the perfectly wrong couple." Voila!

Here's that perfect poem:

 We’re all seeking that special person who is right for us.
 But if you’ve been through enough relationships, you begin to suspect there’s no right person, just different flavors of wrong.
 Why is this? 
 Because you yourself are wrong in some way, and you seek out partners who are wrong in some complementary way.
 But it takes a lot of living to grow fully into your own wrongness.
And it isn’t until you finally run up against your deepest demons, your 
unsolvable problems–the ones that make you truly who you are–that
you’re ready to find a lifelong mate.
Only then do you finally know what you’re looking for. You’re looking for the wrong person.
But not just any wrong person: it’s got to be the right wrong person–someone you
lovingly gaze upon and think,
 “This is the problem I want to have.”

--Andrew Boyd