The High Cost of Caregiving for Women

65% of people who need caregivers rely on family, friends and neighbors for assistance. The National Caregiving Council estimates that 75% of caregivers are women. The average caregiver is female, 46 years old, married with children and works outside the home.

The odds are good that you are or you know one of these women. You might not know that caregiving is a health hazard and career hazard for women.

Metropolitan Life has studied caregiving and its economic consequences. They described the career consequences of women who are caregivers as follows:
33% decreased their work hours
29% passed up a promotion or training
22% took a leave of absence
20% went from full time to part time
20% quit their jobs
13 % retired early

You can see the career consequences and easily calculate the economic impact on a caregiver’s family. But there are also health implications for the caregiving woman. Another study by Met Life, comparing caregivers to non-caregivers, showed that caregivers have a 28% higher incidence of hypertension, heart disease, and poorer immune function. We also know that caregivers very often put off their own medical check up’s, tests and health screenings because they are focused on the health and medical needs of the loved ones they care for.

There is so much more than just the time and stress and worry.

The Mercy Papers

I just finished this new memoir about caregiving and cancer. It’s a stunning, page-turning read and it’s different than other “my loved one is dying of cancer” books. The spark in this memoir comes from the perspective of a 20-something author and caregiver who is not buying the hospice party line. Here is what caregiving looks like when you are in college, grad school, dating, partying—or at least your friends are.

The Mercy Papers by Robin Romm shows us the misery of losing your mother when you are supposed to be pushing her away, and how inadequate support can be whether it is from friend, lover or hospice. Sounds grim but it’s not because Romm is such a good writer.

The Costs of Caregiving

The average caregiver is 46, female, married with children and working outside the home. Although men also provide assistance, female caregivers spend as much as 50% more time providing care than male caregivers.

A four-year study by the National Alliance for Caregiving found that middle-aged women caring for an ill or disabled spouse were six times more likely to suffer depressive or anxious symptoms than those with no caregiving responsibilities. Their symptoms include:

A higher level of hostility
Less personal mastery
Less self-acceptance
A decline in happiness

Compounding this picture, more than one-third of female caregivers provide care to others while suffering from poor health themselves. Women over the age of 50 who are caregivers have a twofold increase in their risk of coronary heart disease. (CHD)

And then at work:

33% of working women caregivers decreased their work hours
29% passed up a promotion, training or assignment
22% took a leave of absence
20% switched to part-time
16% quit their jobs


When I read this today I knew I was reading about myself.