Saturday, April 26, 2014
How to Cut Out Resentment
The centerpiece of caregiving is control. And yes, control is about fear. If I can only control, well, everything, then I can assure we’ll be safe. Even knowing better it is still there.
But control, of course, leads to resentment, and resentment leads to even more discomfort—and to obsession. So we don’t want that. But it’s tricky. Resentment is like tar paper –so sticky. I learned a way out of resentment though. Here is a practice that a friend gave me to try with a person who challenges you. Here is what she suggested:
Do this visualization as many times as you can over two weeks and you will find that your resentment or struggle with that person will lessen or disappear.